Emotional abuse slaughters a heart – get help!
Emotional abuse is a standalone abuse.
Emotional abuse whittles a person down as their self-image shrivels from being attacked (emotionally abused) day after day. Whittled down: not called by name, ignored, pinned down with, you should, you could, you need to, you better, you best not, and the person becomes so confused, stuck, and believes she has nothing to offer, turns inward, like into a shell.
According to the 2019 Impact report on the Domestic Violence Hotline! “91% of the calls to the Domestic Violence Hotline in 2019, were classified as Emotional abuse! And Physical abuse was 61%!”
Emotional abuse is real.
Emotional abuse slaughters a heart – get help!
There are no black eyes with emotional abuse nor marks on her body. Yet, her heart is slaughtered. Emotional abuse is all about power and control. Power and control of a woman or a man.
Since I coach women, I will speak from that frame work. And I do know there are women that are abusive.
Emotional abuse slaughters a heart – get help!
Definition of Emotional Abuse
I define emotional abuse from the book written by Dr. Gregory Jantz. “Emotional abuse is not normal. Emotional abuse is the consistent pattern of being treated unfairly and unjustly over a period of time, usually by the same person or people. It can also be a onetime traumatic event that is left unresolved. Emotional abuse is an intentional assault by one person on another to so distort the victim’s view of self that the victim allows the abuser to control him or her.” Page 12, Jantz, Gregory L., and Ann McMurray. Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse. Grand Rapids, MI: Revell, 2009.
What do emotional abuse and narcissism have in common? Deathblows to an individual’s soul. Let me ask you, why would you want someone to distort who you are?
Truly emotional abuse is a slow erase of one’s identity. It begins like this, “Do you need to go out tonight to that meeting? What time will you be home?” The woman gets excited thinking, oh he wants me around. YET, if she stays put, he then ignores her presence all together. That is only the beginning. I know so. Learn from my pain and know the way to freedom.
A person becomes trapped in a dangerous game or cycle of never ever pleasing the controller. The abuser, the controller changes up the bullseyes even if one hits the mark, they will change it up on you. Then a woman tries harder and harder and harder.
Emotional abuse slaughters a heart – get help!
Steps for you- if you are the one being abused:
- Recognize when you play into their hand and the abuser is controlling.
- Get HELP now. Get into counseling and make certain they understand abuse, emotional that is. Or be coached, just don’t do nothing. Abuse grows! Respond today!
- Step out of the way you react. Learn how to respond.
- Keep putting down healthy boundaries.
- What next, be coached to live. I know the way? Recover your heart!
- What will you choose to do? Your life matters and counts. Take action today!
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