Emotional abuse is a standalone abuse.

Emotional abuse is a standalone abuse. Hard to detect at times. You see no black eyes. You see no marks on her body.

Yet, her heart is slaughtered as the weapons used on her are verbal and mental, so no one sees it unless they are in the abuser’s presence.

It slaughters a heart and whittles a person down as their self-image is under attack(emotionally abused). 

Is emotional pain growing within you? If so, get help! We were created  NOT to have emotional pain growing within us.

Emotional abuse is about power and control. Power and control of a woman or a man. Since I coach women, I will speak from their mindset. And I do know there are women that are abusive.

Definition of Emotional Abuse

I define emotional abuse from the book written by Dr. Gregory Jantz. “Emotional abuse is not normal. Emotional abuse is the consistent pattern of being treated unfairly and unjustly over a period of time, usually by the same person or people. It can also be a onetime traumatic event that is left unresolved.  Emotional abuse is an intentional assault by one person on another to so distort the victim’s view of self that the victim allows the abuser to control him or her.” Page 12, Jantz, Gregory L., and Ann McMurray. Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse. Grand Rapids, MI: Revell, 2009.

What do emotional abuse and narcissism have in common? Deathblows to an individual’s soul.

Emotional abuse is a slow erase of one’s identity without a punch to the eye or to the gut. It is sneaky and deadly and so very painful.

It begins like this, “Do you need to go out tonight to that meeting? What time will you be home?” The woman gets excited thinking oh he wants me around. YET, if she stays home then he ignores her presence all together.

That is only the beginning.

To ignore someone is so demeaning and painful.

A person becomes trapped in a  dangerous game or cycle of never ever pleasing the controller, since the abuser changes up the bullseyes even if she hits the mark, he will change it up on her that she did not succeed. Then a woman tries harder and harder and harder, never to please an abuser or to win his love.

Steps for you- if you are the one being abused:

1. 1. Recognize the abuse is to control you.
   2. Learn to step out of the abuser’s way and not to react.
   3. Learn how you want to respond and put in place healthy boundaries.
   4. Be coached to freedom way. Become YOU! I know the roadmap.
   5. Is emotional pain growing within you?