Two leftovers from emotional abuse that women need to be aware of.
They are hidden, sneaky, and can stop you from growing-up.
Awareness is the first step to transformational living!
- One is negating. This means when you say I want to do that, but then you slap your hand over it and never do it. For example, I want to start planting a garden, well no I don’t, as I might have to step outside and learn to hoe.
You excuse yourself right out of what you want in life. You might as well put yourself on the ground like the above woman as that is what you are doing to your life.
You are crossing you out of your life, because you’re not willing to step and risk and learn and grow and truly believe in YOU and your heart! You negate YOU!
You remain stopped and stuck, as you were negated by the abuser and you now do it to yourself because you choose to believe the lies. It’s more comfortable and less risky, after all he said or she said.
Negating means to nullify.
Don’t cross yourself out of your own LIFE! You are worth more than His or Her control. Become you. Come out! Come out! And become YOU!
Ask yourself, do you say buts, a lot in your life to yourself?
This can be sneaky.
Negating is as if you had someone say to you, I LOVE YOU, but you need to change…see how that crosses out the I LOVE YOU?
Don’t let this be you. Your Life matters. You matter. Change your life!
2. The next area to be aware of is second guessing. This drives women nuts. And it is unhealthy. Believe in yourself. If not, the abuser is still controlling YOU!
This is something you’ve learned, as someone taught you this.
For example, you may have said, “I am going to apply for those courses at the college” and an abuser may have said, “WHY do that, it’s not you?” And you are sort of stunned. Because you think it is you and for you.
Then in the future you apply for a job. Then an old memory comes up, why did you think you could do that, in a tone that sends you cowering! These are all picked up in life. Subtle. Sneaky. And a woman must be made aware of these and then learn to step out of them and away from them.
Are you ready to step out of these traps that get you no where?
What is one step you can do to stop the negating?
How about the second guessing. What is one thing you want to do and you will STOP beating yourself up already?
If these have you trapped and you are like, wow. Reach out for coaching as I can guide you through these. It takes awareness and also self-discipline to focus on the Truth and to shift to live .Connect with me for a coach chat!
