Are you in emotional pain on Mother’s Day?
Mother’s Day can be so hard!! Brutal for some women. And here are a few reasons and I will leave a blank one for you to respond to.
- You always wanted to become a mom and you are not a mom.
- Your mom was not a great role model and your relationship was never healed. Now she is passed or you have no relationship.
- You are waiting on your mom to give you a stamp of approval or of acceptance! “YOU HAVE VALUE.”
- Maybe, you never ever met your mom and there is this huge hole in your heart. And maybe a lot of anger? And you have tried to bury it, but at the same time you are burying yourself.
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So how do you make it through Mother’s Day?
Years ago, I dreaded Mother’s Day. My story fit into number one then. I wanted to become a mom and yet infertility became a long chapter in life!
This is what I chose to do:
- It was Mother’s Day. I recognized it as a day to honor my mom with a card, a gift, flowers or a phone call. I honored my mom. That showed her the respect she deserved. I loved her and had an awesome mom. Remind yourself it is like any other day, do not allow it to destroy your day.
- Women that I knew who were moms, I wished them a Happy Mother’s Day!
- Attend church if you can, and I did, even though it was so hard, as I sat and watched mother’s stand up to be honored and given flowers during church.
- Over the years, my pain and disappointment lessened.
- And then overtime, and I still do when I speak, share how hard Mother’s Day is for women that struggle with infertility and/or are a single woman.
- If you never were able to become a mom, I am so sorry, but who can you bless with your life? Are you an aunt perhaps?
- And if you have children and they choose not to reach out to you today, remind yourself, they are adults and make their own decisions.
- Buy yourself some flowers. Celebrate, you are a mom! Or you are a daughter!
- Give thanks all day long. Recall the good…
- I believe motherhood is either the toughest or second to the toughest role in life, but so worth it. I would not change a thing about being mom to my three children. God allowed me to become a mom to three precious children through adoption. Now all three are grown and are parents themselves. I give thanks for their lives and for each of my grandchildren!
Share one thing you will do, if today is hard for you? And if your emotional pain is growing in this area, seek help perhaps!
