A woman left me a message on one of my post!
“I’d like to know what clicked for you. Why did you make the change in your heart…and mind? Emotional abuse is so insidious that it takes years before women make a change. Getting the courage to take that step is something I want to help women with. Educate me, please, on the mindset that made a difference for you to get started. “
What clicked for me and gave me the courage?
I recommended she reads The Enable, Me, Lord to Shift devotional series to start learning. Enable Me, Lord, to Shift, book #1.
So what was it for me, why the courage?
This was 17 years ago: praise GOD to all the healing He has done in my life! And if He did it for me, He can do it for you too!
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The chronicity and the longevity of what I lived in (over 25 years) diced my heart to pea size pieces. And my heart was barely pulsing from the volume of the emotional pain trapped within, as I hid my secret, the abuse. (When one does not know a name to something, and it is confusing, how can one tell someone else?) I did not know the term, emotional abuse and covert narcissism until 23 years into the marriage.
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My prayers to die. And then to face my youngest brother in a casket. It was a horrific-pivotal-pain-point-for-me. The veil began to slide from my eyes at the funeral home. A huge awakening!
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If that had been me in the casket, as I had prayed, I would have died in a lie as people would have believed all was well with Darlene and her marriage. My brother’s death was the game changer.
- I was still alive and I had a voice. I chose to believe the Word over the lies. “Worthy are You, our Lord and our God, to receive glory and honor and power; for You created all things, and because of Your will they existed, and were created” (Revelation 4:11 NASB).
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I recognized and chose to believe GOD had a purpose for me and that is why I was still alive.
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I chose life and kicked and kicked HARD against the lies and exposed and stepped out of the trap of covert abuse.
And you, are you struggling with how to put your life, your story, your pain, and your life purpose together to make a GOOD Recipe from your life?
Save yourself more emotional pain, angst, wasted time, and many tears and become healthier emotionally to feel joy, love, adventure and to experience life and grow and step into your full self knowing this is why I am still alive. Purchase personal coaching with me here. Who am I?
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