How do I do hard?

In Debbie Macomber’s book, Knit Together, Discover God’s Pattern for Your Life, she states, “One of the biggest obstacles to our dreams is our own line of thinking.” And above that sentence she writes, “LIE #3, It’s too hard.”

I agree with her.

When I began writing I fussed to one of my author friends about how hard it was for me. She came back to me and said, “Just because it is hard, does not mean it is not of GOD?”

That was a wow, a wakeup call for me.

What is your hard right now?  What are you facing?

• Death of a loved one

• Divorce

• Abuse

• Home Foreclosure

• Empty nest

• Health issues

• Loss of a job

• Broken relationships

Here is how I coach women to tackle a hard thing.

1. State, this is hard.

2. Be empowered by the Word of the Lord and read your Bible and run to the Truth to train yourself to have a healthy mindset.

3. LOOK at the BIG picture and mark an end date or a time frame. Run it out a month, three months, a year. It is hard. Agree. It will take time to get through this. Set a deadline and even if it is grief. State this next year I’ll be me moving through new territory. Grief laps into all areas of a life. So be wise.

4. Tackle the hard thing- do it day by day to shrink its hold.

   • Break it down into doable chunks.

   • Small steps.

   • Pack one room of the house in a week.

   • Drop three pounds a week.

   • Write one chapter a week.

   • Grieve each day, write, create, run, and grieve your loss daily.

In time you will see and sense that you are working through the hard!

The best thing you can do when you say this is hard, is to head right into the project or the issue. Then set up a time frame to move through it. Then do it.

Don’t stop in the middle, keep grieving the hard, growing through the hard, and going forward, in spite of the hard!

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