How to set boundaries over the holidays?
Holidays may stir up more than fun. A whole lot of chaos can come with families and friends thrown together. And if there is a dad, mom, uncle, aunt, great uncle or aunt, cousin, sibling or you name it, and they go on the hunt for a sexual victim, look out.
I personally think a lot of sexual abuse and other abuse happens during the holidays. Be wise. Safe. And even in a church too and in church families. Set boundaries.
How? (Keep your children away from them if you know they are abusers.)
How to set boundaries over the holidays?
- Shrink the time you spend with the abuser.
- Do not debate them.
- Do not get caught up in their problems or chaos. If they create the issue, do not pick it up.
- At the most pain filled times for you while you are in their space, do something of purpose for you! Like remove yourself at the most pain filled times to find something of purpose to do.
One thing I did years back, I went to my bedroom, shut the door, and played Christian music. I hid out in a quiet room. Another time I hid out in the bathroom. Quiet. Peace.
I help women leaders’ laser focus on truth to convert their pain points to purpose as they don’t know how. And many women I have coached from emotional abuse. And this is where they get stuck in life.
- A woman may have been abused as a young girl and yet the woman has not healed emotionally. Now she is an adult with a brick on her emotions. How does she get the brick off of her emotions and shift to grow up and out of old ways?
- Women that are/were stuck in an abusive marriage desire to discover their life purpose. How does she discover herself when she is walloped emotionally by him?
- Women that have tasted abuse through the work place, church, or extended family.
How can a woman shake it off and step to more purpose? Book 30 free minutes of coaching with me~
You were created for more than to be used.
What boundary do you need to set for the holidays?
