What do you long to hear from your abuser? As abuse is dark, evil, and hard.
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I love you.
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I am sorry.
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I was wrong.
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I want to spend time with you.
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I hurt you so bad, I am sorry. I will change. I am going to change. Just you watch and see.
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What do you long to hear from your abuser? As abuse is dark, evil, and hard.
Perhaps, you want to hear most of these or all of these words above. Please hear my heart and learn from my pain, if someone says to you, I will change, do not trust at first.
It requires necessary steps of growth from that person, to change. It’s way too easy to say I will change, yet nothing changes.
Action speaks louder than words!
Real change requires:
- Time.
- A behavior from the abuser that stops hurting you.
- And positive growth for both persons.
- Healing over time.
Beware, change is not instant, it is more like a stop and go, and a stop and go, and finally you’re headed in the right direction. Too many times abusers, do only a little, just so much, to deceive you to think that change is real. Do not fall for it.
The test will be time.
For you!
- Do get into counseling with a counselor that knows abuse. Be coached by me. Schedule a time to meet me.Meet me here!
- And do not trust the abuser.
- Trust must be earned.
- Too many times women believe instantly when an abuser says, I am sorry, let things get settled down, and all will be well, again. More or less, they delay to get things back to what they were — to use YOU!
One can only change themselves.
And that will require you to step out to change and to stop enabling. I know so.
What do you want?
What if you never hear from the abuser, I am sorry?
Do you want to learn how to grow to become better and not bitter? Click on Aim for purpose instead of pain!
When women work with me they go forward to their purpose and away from the pain no matter the actions or reactions of the abuser.
